Bari a. Williams is a native and current resident of Oakland, CA where she was raised an only child and only grandchild until she was 13. She is currently being held hostage there by her husband, whom she met at age 13. This emotionally spoiled chick was given not only too much attention, but too much education. She has a B.A from UC Berkeley, an MBA from St. Mary’s College of CA, an MA from UCLA and soon a JD from UC Hastings. She loves (in no particular order) designing shoes, desserts, puppies, fashion, her husband, her mom, AKA, the History Channel, basketball, football, the intersection of Black history and sociology, Mexican food, and telling it like it is- hence her presence here as our advice columnist. Everything else she just likes- in varying amounts, or not at all. She welcomes your questions and looks forward to providing you bluntly worded, funny, yet nurturing answers.