Date #2: Reproduction
You’ll know how this guy got his nickname
How we met
I was out at a bar eating and he came up and started talking to me
His Stats
45, college educated, member of a Greek-lettered fraternity, works in real estate, born and raised in the city we currently live in
The Date
After-work drinks
What I wore
My work clothes: black pantsuit with a white blouse that had ruffles, silver accessories, low black pumps
Yes I know what you’re thinking…he’s old(er). There is nothing really wrong with older men. I don’t discriminate. What was unique with this guy is that he has never been married nor does he have any kids. Normally this would throw up red flags, but I had a chance to talk to him for a long time and meet some of his friends when we met. Everything seemed ok.
I arrived at the spot first and grabbed a table.
*pause*
I’m gonna be real honest with y’all…I tried very hard to find a table in a back corner. Had a feeling that people were going to be staring at us. For some reason I didn’t want anyone to see me.
*end pause*
Once Reproduction arrives, he looks slightly…different. He looked older than when I met him. No biggie. Just an observation. He’s still handsome. Salt and pepper beard. A little more pepper than salt. Same pleasant smile.
We order some beers and begin what will be a stop and go conversation due to both of us peeking at the basketball game.
Reproduction: My friend from the other night asked about you. Asked if I had talked to you since we met.
Me: Oh really?
Reproduction: I told him I did and he was glad to hear it. Said I should get on that because you can still have kids.
I know men have “biological clocks,” but my reproductive organs are part of casual conversation between two men?
Okay I guess…
After more stop and go conversation about dogs, jazz, and the fact that he pledged his fraternity the year after I was born, we decided to call it a night. He walked me to my car and attempted to kiss me. I declined and instead gave him a peck on the cheek.
Overall this date was…eh. I may give him another shot since I was tired and that can skew how I see things (I love my sleep). Or maybe he’s just more interesting when he’s drunk…hmmm.
So SASSY readers, do you date older? What is your age range? Have you ever dated anyone significantly older than you? If so, how did that work out? Until next time…
Love is all we need,
Sasha
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This guy does not sound like he can keep up with you. Who talks about the biological clock on a first date? weird. Not to mention, I would think you want your future childrens’ father to be able to play baseball and basketball with them, without braking a hip!
Life’s too short.
Glad to hear that you’re opening yourself up to meeting new people, however I think 45 is a tad bit old. Is he really concerned with your “biological clock?” At least you can still have children with less deformities. Ok, that may not be a nice comment, but it is something to think about when it comes to dating older men. And yes, I have dated older men before. The last older man I dated was 40 and I was 26. He was attractive and had swagger, but…he had 7 kids and one was a sophomore at Michigan State. So disgusting!! Needless to say, I hope you enjoy your dates and remember to keep an open mind.
LOL his discussion with his friend about your biological clock almost took me outta here! That’s a big age difference, but at least go out on date #2. I think if you get to a chance to find out more about him, the age difference may or may not be a dealbreaker. Pluuuus he is close to getting that pension check and ssi…so I say hang in there for that. Lol
Well, at least you know he’s ready to settle…
I don’t really date older men, If he and my daddy can be friends, we have a problem. I just see it as we are in two different places in life and that will eventually clash. Maybe not some people, but I bet that happens for most couples that have huge age differences. Why are you giving him a 2nd chance? You could use that for date #3 (or sleeping).
Okay…you all might have had great conversation, chemistry, etc…but I agree with other comments, he is much too old. I’ve dated older guys, max 11 years older than me…and even then I felt like that was just too much of an age gap. We could not possibly be on the same page with regards to a “future” unless we would agree to having our children calling him “grandpa.”
So, I just say end this while you can–there’s no future there and I think you know that. Instead of wasting your time on a second date if you haven’t already, I would focus that time on finding someone else.
girl stop. please do not go out with grampa again.
*hysterical laughter*