We here at SASSY hope you have a fabulous (and safe) fourth of july!
We also wanted to share an interesting blog post from our good friends at P.O.S.H. – the male perspective on Black Love. Check out what Chauncey has to say in part two of this three part series. I, for one, found it very interesting. What about you?
peace,
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Read the post on black love. I found it interesting too for a few different reasons.
care to share barbara?
I just thought it was interesting how the writer laid out some of the things they felt black women should do in order to be able to find and keep her man, but then turned around and said that “men” don’t know what they want and that there is no hope for black love, lol.
I read through it kinda quickly so I’m not sure if I missed a deeper meaning. The post was basically saying that black women need to be able to make sure that they don’t shatter black manhood by being too strong if they wanna keep their black man. I can’t help but read that as black men being insecure with strong black women.
What do you think?
yeah i know. I hear this all time “i want an independent woman but not too independent” “ya’ll women want too much in a brother.”
i’m sorry but if i managed to live 26 years and not have a child, i don’t think it’s too much to ask. i went to college and got my masters, why am i too bougie when i want a dude with the same qualifications? whomp.
the problem, as i see it, is that our odds are soo off. there are soo many women that “got it together” and so many men that do. with the odds so skewed in their favor, i get why a man would chose to be single. but damn. this is ridiculous.
i don’t think black love is dead, i just think it’s gonna take a lot longer for us to find it than our parents.
I agree. I mean, these days not all women are looking for a man to “save” them and take care of them. Women are looking for an equal partnership or I’d like to think we are. Women are out making moves and doing their thing and need a man who is capable of keeping up with that. And he should be able to keep up with that because he should also be out there making his own moves.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman who is independent because this is what we should always be. Even if a woman is in a relationship or whatever, God forbid something happen to her man she will need to be able to continue on in the world. Just reminds me of Tyler Perry’s movie, no woman should ever be THAT dependent on a man and no man should ever wish for a woman to be that dependent on him for life. Somehow, I think this is just what some men want… to feel needed, and they can’t cope with a woman who is able to stand on her own two feet.
I agree that black love isn’t dead. The power struggle just has to die. Men will have to be able to be in a relationship with a woman who is making things happen and be secure with that. Lay down some of that masculinity and certain ideals of women that men have.
Eva,
Thanks for the shout out! The articles has created alot of discussions. Where is Bari when you need her? LOL. When I plug in the final part, I think you will find it interesting.